My name is Shelley and this is a website I created for reasons that few could understand.
Its really more about my life, I feel like living, so its like a self protective measure. I know some may find it hard to believe
someone could be so intimidated and harassed this is the result, but it true. I will never trust provincial authorities in the province of Ontario, you have lost my confidence 110%. The worst thing you can do to someone who has been victimized is to revictimzed them through deception which you continuously do. It can't be undone. I will never forgive what transpired. You have lost my confidence, and trust forever.
Tundra is the name of my service dog and the dog you see is her. Tundra also is computer literate and has a pawprint online, part of her service to me.
I thought I'd end up making a a living legacy to my service dog eventually. I try not to ad to much swag its all very meaningful.
FOOD AND CLEAN WATER basic needs for all living things.
Its not a benefit its a necessity of life.
P.S there are no calories in water. So effectively you could have all the water you want and still starve.
I thought Id take some time and dedicate some of this site to sharing all I can find pertaining to sexual harassment. There are lots of resources that cover sexual assault fewer for sexual harassment .I guess we all have to make a choice will my voice and decisions make a difference. I hope it makes a positive difference.
I know at some point things will get better but the biggest disappointment is I also know the day will come hopefully a long time from now and I will look back at my life and I won't forget.
To start sexual harassment constitutes an infringement of a person’s right to equality.
It is prohibited by section 15 of the Canadian Charter of rights and freedoms and by all provincial Human Rights codes to find sections that apply to you, look up your provincial Human Rights Code.
If you find something useful in here becasue you have been sexual harassed this site has served it's purpose.
Sexual harassment is also not only work place related, meaning you do not have to be a employee to be sexually harassed by a employee, however the liability is with the employer.
From what I have been able to find from a legal perspective there are two main types of sexual harassment "quid pro quo" and “hostile climate”. Even though victims do not have to describe there experiences on the basis of these types. I think if you have been subjected to these types of sexual harassment its best to make yourself knowledgeable, these two types are dependent on the consequences for the victim.
Some types of sexual harassment can be a crime under the Criminal Code. Sexual assault is an extreme form of sexual harassment. Sexual harassment is a form of discrimination, Ontario also has workplace safety laws that deal with sexual harassment specifically in the workplace reference your Occupational Health and Safety act.
Few people actually witness sexual harassment when it occurs, unlike this situtation where it really happened during a video taped interview, and I didn't tape it,
sexual harassment is a reprehensible form of behaviour that infringes on the victim’s right to equality and dignity...this I know for fact.
My thought is there is very little information about sexual harassment because of liability. If you are sexually harassed the employer is liable, you do not have to be a employee to be sexually harassed. For instance say you are shopping and are sexually harassed/harassed by a employee while shopping, this is goods and services and the employer is liable for the actions of the employee.
I thought this was a appropriate quote "Once you change the technology - from a film camera to a video camera, or from an 8-mm camera to 16 mm - you change completely the content. With 8 mm, a leaf on a tree will be made up of maybe four grains. So it's very impressionistic, almost like Seurat. If you switch to 16 mm, the technology gives you hundreds of grains on that leaf. I have given a exmaple below.
Here is something else interesting; The Canadian Victims Bill of Rights was Enacted on July 23rd, 2015, the Act creates clear Rights for Victims of crime, and requires said Act to be considered during each step of the criminal justice system. ... their right to file a complaint for an infringement or denial of any of their Rights under this Act.
Not all people are looking to sue for everything, maybe if the employee's had better policies in place it would never have occurred, of course it goes back to leadership, when all the employer is thinking about is liability you can see how and why they might have so many instances of sexual harassment. Its kind of like the foul smell of cat piss,its also dangerous because its full of ammonia or the sour shit smell that seeps from the pours of a alcoholic after they drank 40 ounces of whiskey in 12 hours , its like being held captive by abusers everything looks pretty on the outside but its a rats nest of lies. You know how some meals taste better the second time, this one doesn't its like being fed raw chicken, full of salmonella. Seems harsh but actually its worse after surviving abuse. When people force you to live in the past they give you no future. Not everyone would get the analogy but its a worthy comparison. I always enjoyed creative writing and I'm, not sure if I fully capture the feeling.
I don't have a cat, I have a dog. A service dog.
Start caring about the people whom you serve and have good policies that people adhere to, not stories, this might help in reducing your liability claims.
Anyway, included in this site are some of the best websites I have found to this point about sexual harassment.
These are some of the reasons why women don't report sexual assault.
Times have changed with the me too movement. Thankfully
This is a good video below, it can be applied to any predominantly masculine profession.
June 13, 2018
How senior OPP managers treat women and probably not only women who are reporting allegations of sexual violence. Who do you think he was thinking of in this interview, would you want to be a person who was victimized and have to report him. Do you think he would treat you differently. If what you see you think is bad, what about what you didn't see. I believe section 8 of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms covers this "A “seizure” for section 8 purposes is the “taking of a thing from a person by a public authority without that person’s consent. In fostering the underlying values of dignity, integrity and autonomy, it is fitting that section 8 of the Charter should seek to protect a biographical core of personal information which individuals in a free and democratic society would wish to maintain and control from dissemination to the state. " I've given you some dignity by not showing your faces, or your names. How do you make people accountable, if you do a internal complaint it all gets covered over, if you do a independent review it gets covered over, if all these incidence were made public this disgusting treatment of people who have already been victimized wouldn't still be happening. Your complaint process doesn't work and your reviews don't work. This does. I will never be the same, the way I was treated seeps into every facet of my life. To be revictimized in such a demeaning fashion by a detective, its the worst abuse possible.
June 13, 2018
The papers on the side of the table belong to me, I was told my property was safe. This was not accident, what ever he took is my confidential/personal and private information and belonged to me only. He dragged the clothing over the top of the table I believe with intent to make the paper fall on the floor, places my clothing on my purse then he picks up the papers and puts them with his papers. They never told me this happened. What motivation he had I have no idea. Later I discover at least one of my papers is missing and ask for it back( video included) but what else didn't he give back. Why would he take that letter? I guess you'd have to know what it said. To make this clear this is a OPP police officer during a police interview stealing my paperwork and touching my property without consent. When you give something to a police officer during a interview they have to read it allowed or describe what they were given or shown. The degrading treatment I was subjected to during this interview far outweighs anything I could ever comprehend.
Its a breach of trust at the minimum, I'm sure it goes far beyond that.
To really steal someones property during a on camera interview, are these the investigators you want in your home after someone broke in? Good question. This is a real police interview when I was making a report about serious allegations. You can't hide this stuff and ignorance to it would be as bad as what happened. I see this as a remedial step to the prevention similar occurrences.
This is only one OPP Detective who has destroyed any ability I will ever have to trust any police service, he and she not only disgustingly tarnished the OPP reputation and the police officers who actually care and try and make a difference, doing such a good job of it they tarnished everyone. Certainly not the right persons at the right time. It could go down in history as one of the worst police interviews for sexual assault though, not the only one but one of. It would go against my moral values not to call them out as I have to wonder in all the years of policing how many innocent lives have been destroyed. When change comes to late.
This could be a good lesson for the OPP, its unfortunate. The point is not the cost of the item, it’s the cost of the lesson, but a good guide for people such as myself. If you all want to dressup as horses, that's your choice but its about the artwork. Those ares some really nice paintings. Would it be okay if I just took them off the walls and took them home or would that be theft.